Bride's Friend Wants To Use Her Wedding For Photos, Bride Refuses

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mattstaff
Aug 7, 2021 11:00 AM EDT

The thing about calling out the people in this world that have gotten lost in the thick haze of their own blinding entitlement is that they can get very defensive when their antics are called out. It sounds like this bride's friend did anything but take kindly to being called out. She actually had the audacity to call the lovely bride a bridezilla. Totally uncalled for. Absolutely not accurate. It's definitely more of a friendzilla situation on our hands here. 

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    Font - AITA for not letting my friend use my wedding photographer for engagement shoots? I got married last weekend. The day before my wedding, one of my bridesmaids got engaged. I was super happy for her and told her I was so excited for her wedding. Then the next day, my friend kept saying she wanted her engagement photos done and since I already had a photographer, could she and her finacé just "borrow" her for 40 minutes. She didn't even ask me first, rather went right to the photographer. T
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    Font - me one, we didn't have the time if I wanted to stick to her documenting the pre-wedding stuff and two, if I did decide to sacrifice some of that time, she'd require more money as she was paid for one specific event and engagement shoots are another. I really didn't want to have her miss me getting a first look of myself in my dress and hair and makeup, so I told my friend no. She got really upset and kept bringing it up. The photographer did say she could take a nice picture of them at th
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    Font - In the week since, my "friend" has posted on social media when she's a bride, she hopes she doesn't forget who her true friends are. A part of me wonders if I should've just caved and let her have the 40 minutes at some point and told her to pay for it. AITA? 2.5k 355 ↑, Share
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    Font - NTA. Congratulations on your wedding. That girl is not your friend. She didn't respect you, your wedding photographer, or your wedding. She's immature and feels the need to post passive aggressive messages on social media. I'm glad you didn't cave because you shouldn't have to sacrifice your time for your big day. Friendships aren't forever, and may be think of letting this one go. You weren't a bridezilla. She is a friendzilla! Congrats again! You did nothing wrong!! Edit...changed word
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    Font - sqitten • 16h Prime Ministurd [409] NTA I thought this was going to be about you not wanting your friend to use the same photographer... but instead, your friend wanted you to pay for her engagement photos and also do so at the expense of your own photos... you are so not the asshole here. G Reply t 404 3
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    Font - NTA. You hadn't contracted for or paid for the additional shoot. Your friend was beyond entitled! And how dare she call you a bridezilla when she was clearly upstaging you with an engagement the day before your wedding! 6 Reply 4 1k 3 ...
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    Font - QuinGood • 16h NTA There were things that happened on your wedding day that won't be repeated. You wanted them documented and hired a professional do do so. The photographer offered to do ONE picture of them at the reception, which was gracious. Asking for a 40 minute photo shoot during the period of time you had contracted with the photographer? How do you spell entitled? Quit following your "friend" on social media and anyone who takes her side. Наpрy Marriage! G Reply 248 ...
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    Font - thinkevolution • 16h Colo-rectal Surgeon [45] It's your wedding, she's there as a bridesmaid. Why would she want engagement photos in your bridesmaid dresses from the wedding? That's odd. Also you said no as you paid for the photographer and the change would be at the expense of what you paid for. NTA G Reply 4 200 3 ...
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    Font - armandomanatee • 15h NTA A compromise was given "I can take a nice photo of them at the reception." And they wanted a ful| 40 min shoot? Girl please. A simple "could you take one or two photos of us real quick, we just got engaged, k bye." Should have been you're bridesmaids approach, which happens all the time at weddings "oh get a pic of me and my son he never dresses up!" Snap snap and you walk away. Source: I'm a photographer/designer who sometimes does side gigs of weddings and brida
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    Font - lionne6 · 13h NTA. Look, I realize that your friend was probably carried away with her new ring, the beautiful dress, hair and make-up she had on, and the beautiful location. I'm sure in her mind it was a brilliant idea to take advantage of all these factors. But it's not even you it's the photographer. That's a business guy doing work he's contracted for. A LOT of people don't have a lot of respect for what professional artists charge or do, to them it's just snapping a box a few times -
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    Rectangle - sitvisvobiscum001 • 15h Partassipant [1] NTA, she wanted an engagement shoot on your dime. Plus it was your day, she can't just step back and be a supportive friend? Nope, gotta make it all about her G Reply 4 13 3 ...
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    Font - virtual-toast • 15h NTA. Your friend was trying to make your day about her and also trying to get a free photoshoot, while at the same time placing unfair stress on both you and the photographer. They are undoubtedly wrong here. If they want a photoshoot they can schedule and pay for one themselves. G Reply
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    Rectangle - Peony735616• 15h Partassipant [2] NTA. This is actually kind of hilarious, the bridezilla at your wedding was not the bride. G Reply ...
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    Font - Life-Swan-2778 · 15h Definitely NTA. Her request was pretty ballsy, you said no, she should of respected that. It was your wedding day!! Who even makes that kind of request! She is already a bridezilla after being engaged for 1 Day! 金29 G Reply ...
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    Font - Violet351 · 8h NTA, it was your wedding and the photographer was already busy. G Reply ...
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    Font - StarNightLynx • 5h NTA. She was literally trying to make your wedding day about her engagement. No her engagement does not have equal importance ON YOUR WEDDING DAY. Nevermind that she wanted you to sacrifice time and spend additional money on the photographer you paid for. Those services are extremely expensive, she can pay for her own photographer when it's not literally in the middle of your wedding day!! G Reply 仓2 ...
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    Rectangle - conuly · 36m Partassipant [1] NTA. What a cheapskate! 6 Reply 4 Vote 3 ... +B
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    Rectangle - lil-g-d · 15h NTA. There is no reason she couldn't have gotten your photographers card and done the photo shoot at a different time. It was your day and she was being incredibly selfish for even asking. G Reply ...
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    Font - Nta it's your day, your friend needed to stfu and help you enjoy it. They can pony up and pay for photos if that what they want G Reply ...
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    Font - Seliphra · 12h NTA This isn't a photographer she can just 'borrow' for 40 mins for free. It would have cost YOU more money (So HER shots were charged to YOU, which would be the case regardless of whether she had needed more money if she took the shots), and it took time away from YOUR event that YOU were paying for.
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    Font - Worldly-Customer8718 · 11h NTA, what a fool of a woman. G Reply ...
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    Font - NTA and your friend is acting entitled and awful. You were not being a bridezilla. G Reply ...
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    Rectangle - bluestjordan · 8h NTA and I am surprised she isn't MORTIFIED?!?? l'm embarrassed for her. I vote to Link this thread to her post G Reply ...
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    Font - voluntold9276 · 7h NTA. You paid for a photographer for your wedding. Period. Your bridesmaid was absolutely inappropriate for thinking it was acceptable to try and use your paid employee to do something for her. There was absolutely no reason your 'friend' needed to have the engagement shoot the same day as your wedding. She can hire her own photographer and set up a shoot on a different day. G Reply 仓19 ...
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